Taking the Ex Factor Out of Your Present Relationship

I know for many of us it is easy to say good bye to a relationship that no longer seems to work. What I mean by easy is that even when you may not be ready to let go of the relationship you come to an understanding that you have to move on. However, although you may physically move on from the relationship, if you have not let the emotional and mental baggage go from the previous relationship you may find yourself dropping those former baggage onto your current mate’s door step.

I had an opportunity to speak with a client of mine who said some very hurtful things to her spouse during the heat of an argument. She did not realize that what she was wrong as her spouse “knew” that was how she dealt with her frustrations. Well to make a long story short I found myself asking her this question, “why do you continue to have your ex-boyfriend sleeping in the bed with your spouse and you?” She paused for a moment and did not understand my question as she was thinking physical. As I probed with her more, she began to see that she was treating her spouse the same way as she did with her former boyfriend. She was “stopping” the hurt before she was actually hurt by her husband. However, she was not stopping any hurt but creating more hurt within her marriage. How you may ask? She was treating and responding to her husband in the exact same way she did her ex-boyfriend who left her.

Without knowing it, my client was reliving her previous relationship with her ex-boyfriend through her current relationship with her husband. As the revelation became more evident to her she realized that she loved her husband and never meant to make those hurtful comments. She finally understood that as long as she kept holding on to the words and behaviors she kept bottled up inside of her from her former relationship, she might have ended up losing her marriage for a man she has no interest in being with. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where your mate may have said or did something that reminded you of your previous mate? What was your response? Did you respond to your current mate as you would with your ex or did you take the time to realize that you are in a different relationship with a different person and your actions and responses should be different?

If you are still sleeping with the ex partner within your current relationship, here are a few tips to help you obtain some closure with the former relationship:

1. Let the person “have it”- If you never had the chance to tell your ex how you felt about the relationship write a letter. You will not send the letter off but just write it so that you tell the person how you feel. Once you have gotten all of your emotions up, tear it up and flush it down the toilet.

2. Speak to your current partner- One of the challenges many people face in a relationship especially new ones is letting your mate know what happened to you in the past. If you are in a committed relationship where you feel like the two of you may be in it for the long haul, let your mate know what words and actions annoy you. If you do not tell your mate then how will they know that this is an area of contention for you.

3. Don’t throw yourself under the bus- Don’t beat yourself up if you get into a squabble with your current partner and you find yourself reverting back to your old ways. When you find yourself saying or doing something you may have done with your ex, take a pause for the cause and excuse yourself from the situation. Explain to your mate that you need to leave for a moment so that you will not say or do something that will cause harm to your present relationship. Designate a meeting place and time to share your thoughts with your mate in a non-argumentative manner.

4. Stay committed to your mate- If you believe this is your soul mate and you want to make the relationship work, stay committed to one another through talking and sharing your feelings. Don’t wait until an argument to arrive to complain or air everything out. Most arguments are solved when they are handle as disagreements in the here and now. It is when you hold on to past hurts that may break down the line of communication with your mate. Let old habits be buried so that new habits may spring life into your present relationship.

All in all, in some form or fashion we have all been hurt by an ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend that may continue to foster pain within our lives. However, if you choose daily to let those hurts go you will find yourself dwelling less on them. The less hurts you allow to control your thoughts in your present relationship, the more fulfillment and enjoyment you will feel with the mate you are with. So go ahead and kick that ex factor out of your present relationship as your mate and you will benefit from not having the third wheel in your lives.

April Lisbon-Peoples is a growth and development coach who enjoys inspiring her clients to find their life’s purpose through becoming visionaries. She the founder and CEO of Running Your Race, a coaching practice designed for individuals who are ready to awaken their visions and create their destiny.

Who Should Present Your Corporate Video?

Choosing a presenting style is no easy task. Should you use one of your staff, a professional presenter or get your clients to do the talking? The presenter is usually the first person the viewer sees or hears – so it’s important to chose the right person. To assist in your decision, we’ve compared the benefits of three styles of corporate video presenting.

Using one of your own

You don’t have to be a famous celebrity or professional TV personality to present a video. A knowledgeable member of staff can be very compelling:

• The viewer will associate the company with the face, voice and body language of the presenter, thus the presenter will act as the brand.

• Nobody knows a company better than its staff, the message you wish to convey may be industry specific and a member of staff will tell your story best.

• A good option for companies on a strict budget.

• Suitable to a promotional style or ‘how to’ video that will be uploaded to the company website, sent to prospective employees and used in trade-shows etc.

Remember, this route is only a success if the presenter is a confident public speaker. If every senior member of staff in your company is camera shy, the next option may be more suitable for your company.

Bring the professionals in

This is the most commonly used option when making corporate video. You can choose an actor, regional news reporter or even a celebrity. The benefits include:

• Professionalism, warmth and engagement, authority and an interaction with the viewer. A presenter can deliver a script in a natural and engaging way.

• Suitable for a report on what the company does or a news item.

• It is a good way to show and promote new developments within a company to prospective business partners or as a training video for future and current employees.

• Ideal for the promo-style piece.

Let your clients do the talking

The third option is the client testimonial. Who better to promote your company than happy clients?

• Your video would consist of a montage of shots of your customers singing your praises.

• This will build customer trust and so lead to increased sales.

• The client testimonial has a greater impact on potential clients than the company talking about itself – this is often the best promotion a company can get.

With a little thought and planning video can achieve extraordinary results, but it needs a customer focused approach and careful planning.

What Should Be Included In A Health And Safety Policy For The Workplace?

these with a follow up WHS consultation with a professional body, occupational hygienist in Australia or consultant.

The components of a health and safety policy include the following.

General safety guidelines

One component of a health and safety policy includes a general safety guideline such as:

Wearing the appropriate safety gear – Explaining what kind of safety gear should be worn and why it must be worn.
Procedures to follow in case of an accident – Explain what employees should do if someone is injured or ill at work, for example, where to find the first aid kit and who to call.
Rules regarding smoking in the workplace – Should you allow smoking inside your building? If so, explain where people can smoke and when they cannot smoke.
Procedures on how handle hazardous materials – Explain what kind of hazardous materials are used by your business and how these should be handled. For example: “All chemical spills must immediately be cleaned up.” Or “All chemical spills must immediately be reported”.

Other general safety guidelines may include rules on lifting heavy objects; conducting of WHS audits; the use of personal protective equipment (PPE), such as safety glasses and gloves; providing staff training on how to safely operate machinery, and emergency procedures.

First aid and emergency procedures

Emergency first aid procedures are an important aspect of any safety program. First aid procedures must be in place to assist employees and visitors during any unforeseen incident or accident that may occur on the premises of your business. This can include administering CPR, dealing with burns or broken bones, as well as responding to other medical emergencies such as choking and poisoning. Staff must also know where the first aid kit is located at all times (e.g., next to the kitchen sink).

If you have a large staff team then it is recommended that someone is appointed specifically for this role, so they are trained in basic first aid techniques like how perform CPR.

The Australian Red Cross offers training courses for people who want learn more about how to provide first aid treatment to others. The course covers topics such as:

Managing an emergency until professional help arrives.
Acting safely, effectively and calmly in an emergency situation.
Assessing the situation quickly.
Recognising emergencies, including cardiac arrest and stroke.
Providing first aid for wounds, bleeding and shock; poisoning; burns; choking (adult); bone, muscle and joint injuries.

There are also a range of free resources available on the Red Cross website about health and safety issues that can be downloaded and referenced by staff. These provide information about how to prevent common workplace accidents from occurring as well as other relevant topics such as preventing slips, trips and falls. They also provide details on what to do if someone is injured or becomes unwell while they are at work, so it is a good idea keep copies of these materials in the workplace.

Fire safety precautions

Fires are a common occurrence in the workplace, with around 15,000 reported each year. In most cases, these fires can be avoided by taking some simple precautions.

The first step is to have a fire evacuation plan in place and ensure all employees are familiar with it. Employees should also be aware of the location of the nearest fire exit and how to use it.

In addition to having a fire evacuation plan, businesses should also have an emergency action plan. This plan should include details on what to do if a fire occurs, such as evacuating the building and calling emergency services.

It is important to have adequate fire safety equipment in the workplace, including smoke detectors, extinguishers, and hoses. All of this equipment should be checked regularly to ensure that it is in working order.

Employers should also ensure that the workplace is a safe and healthy place to work. This includes providing adequate training on health and safety, as well as enforcing safe work practices. Employees should be aware of the risks associated with their job and how to minimise these risks.

Health and hygiene policies

Health and hygiene are another important aspect of health and safety in the workplace. Employers must ensure that they provide their employees with a safe working environment, which includes providing adequate toilet facilities and handwashing facilities.

Employees should be encouraged to wash their hands regularly throughout the day and to use soap when doing so. Employees who work in areas such as kitchens or food preparation areas should also be discouraged from putting fingers into their mouths or touching contaminated surfaces without first washing them thoroughly.

If an employer is unable to provide these basic hygiene requirements for its workers, then it may find itself facing legal action from those who are taken ill by poor conditions at work. If you want your business to succeed then make sure that your staff have access to clean toilets, sinks, hand basins and maintain other basic sanitary needs.

Food and drink in the workplace

Food and drinks play an important role in the workplace. Not only do they provide energy and sustenance to help workers power on through their day, but they can also be used as a way to celebrate success or boost morale. However, it is important to remember that while food and drinks can be enjoyed in moderation, they can also pose a health and safety risk if not handled correctly.

For example, employers should ensure that employees do not drink alcohol or eat food that may have been contaminated while working. In addition, workers should be discouraged from eating or drinking in areas such as kitchens or food preparation areas where there is a risk of contamination. This is because consuming food or drink that has been contaminated with bacteria or viruses can lead to gastrointestinal problems such as vomiting and diarrhoea which can be very serious, especially if they occur in a workplace.

Use of technology in the workplace

All workplaces use technology and it is very important for employers to ensure that employees are aware of how they can use it safely. Employers should also explain why workers should not use their mobile phones while working as this may lead to accidents and injury, especially if they were texting or phoning while using dangerous or heavy machinery.

For example, a worker who has been using his/her phone while on duty could inadvertently cause harm to themselves or others because he/she was distracted by something else such as reading messages from friends or family members with whom they have contact through social media sites like Facebook Twitter and so forth. They must be trained in safe work practices when working near machinery and equipment in order for them not only to protect themselves but also any other employees that are around them.

A health and safety policy is important for a number of reasons. It helps to protect your employees from potential workplace accidents or injuries, it shows that you are taking responsibility for the health and safety of your workers, and it can help to reduce the likelihood of legal action being taken against your business in the event of an accident. Having a written health and safety policy also makes sure that all members of staff are aware of their responsibilities when it comes to workplace health and safety. This not only reduces the risk of accidents happening, but also ensures that everyone is working towards maintaining a safe workplace.