Fashion and Lingerie – The Present and Past

Lingerie is an integral part of every women’s wardrobe. Whether an undergarment, sexy attire, a fashion statement, or the answer to a comfortable night’s sleep, sexy and intimate lingerie is a part of feminine history, present and past.

Today, lingerie is part of every women’s attire, subtle or sexy. The choice is dependent upon her personality and purpose. Whether she wants to advertise her feminine attributes or simply have adequately supportive undergarments, department stores are filled with everyday generic lingerie. However, if a woman really wants to feel ultimately sexy and unique, she will choose to shop in stores totally dedicated to specialized lingerie and accessories.

Presently, to have lingerie, or not to have lingerie, is a personal choice. However, in the past, what a woman wears is much more than fashion. A lady’s social status depends on how she presents herself. For instance, in the feudal days, peasant women are not allowed to wear high heeled shoes. In fact, doing so is a criminal offense, not simply a blunder of social status.

In contrast, the social elite proudly wear high heels. Even some men don heeled shoes. Supposedly, in an effort to outdo each other, the aristocracy take great pains to have the most unique and personal heeled shoes created. While researching the subject, a picture is displayed of a woman with approximately two-foot heels. In all seriousness, the heels are so high she has to walk with canes in order to maintain balance. In addition, servants walk on either side of the woman to keep her steady and prevent a fall.

Nevertheless, despite the apparently utter stupidity of wearing shoes you are on capable of walking in, the era of the boned corset is not only insane, it has proved fatal. For example, the television show The Little House on the Prairie depicts a time when a slim waistline is the fashion, at all costs. You may have seen other westerns where women will actually brace themselves against another female to pull the corset even tighter.

Unfortunately, the practice is not only extremely uncomfortable, it can be lethal. The extremely tight undergarments will cause a lady to faint, simply because she does not have enough oxygen to her brain. Women are thought to be the frail gender, until a doctor discovers the problem.

Although a physician may recommend not wearing a corset at all, the fashion is to have a tiny waistline at all costs is not easily altered. Unfortunately, at least one case is reported of a woman whose corset is so tight, she impales her liver with one of the whalebones and succumbs to mortal injury.

In the past, a woman may not be able to breathe, her bust may be close to exploding, and she cannot walk independent of aid, but she sure is fashionable. In the present, thank goodness women have come to their senses. Feeling beautiful, feminine, and alluring is impossible when in pain. Fashions and sensual lingerie should be fun, sexy, alluring, playful, and pretty, yet remain comfortable.

Everything in Life is Negotiable

My best guess is that you and most people you know are uncomfortable with “formal” negotiations for several reasons. First, you do not believe that negotiating is a natural event. Formal negotiations tend to be viewed from the perspective that the only possible outcome from a negotiation is that one party “wins” and the other party “loses”.

What appears to be so ominous to many people is something they probably do not realize is part of their everyday life. In fact, all of us are involved in negotiations of one sort or another throughout the day and the night at work and at home. At work, you are negotiating with other employees, with your bosses, with other departments, with customers, etc. At home, you are negotiating with other members of the family. Some people even negotiate with their pets.

Look around and observe what’s going on around you during the course of the day. You’ll soon realize that negotiating is taking place everywhere, and that it is an integral part of everyday life.

My approach to negotiating is based on two premises:
1. Everything in life is negotiable
2. If you don’t ask, you won’t get.

Think about how often you’ve walked into a store, picked out an item, gone to the checkout counter and paid the price shown on the ticket. Not every time, but in many cases, you’ve left something on the table. Had you negotiated, you really could have done better. Just because there is a price tag on an item does not mean that you have to accept it. You’re probably shaking your head right about now and saying “Yeah right” I’ll just walk into a store and tell the sales person that their price is too high and I want a better price.

Before you laugh too hard, next time you go into a store, keep the following points in mind:
o You are the customer
o The sales person wants to make a sale
o Your money will spend anywhere
o There are competitors’ stores offering the same merchandise
o You need to be convinced as to why you should purchase the item from the store you’re in as opposed to somewhere else.

If the salesperson and possibly the store manager do not understand the situation from your perspective, they need to be made aware of your thought process in a gentle way. In other words, you need to try and get them to understand that if they do not in some way satisfy you, you probably will take your money somewhere else to get a better deal. You really do not have to hit them over the head with a hammer to get them to understand that you are the customer, and that the potential for making —-or losing — the sale is in their hands.

4 Ways to Make Your Presentation a Perfect 10

Do you enjoy meetings and seminars? What about classes and workshops?

We’ve all given our ‘thumbs up’ or ‘thumbs down’ to teachers, presenters and instructors along the way. Sometimes we felt sorry for them. Sometimes we wanted them to suffer at least as much as we did, listening to them.

At other times, we wished we were them.

But have you ever stopped and wondered what makes our experiences positive or negative? Have you debated what to say on a comment card? What was missing, or why this experience was so good?

Sometimes it is simple to discover what made an experience positive or not. For instance, was the space large enough? Well ventilated? Were there refreshments? Was the seating comfortable? These obvious things can take a fair class and make it better, or a turn a good class into a bad experience.

Then there are other, more subtle things. Was the speaker prepared? Did he or she know the topic and explain it well? Was it what you were looking for?

The list of little things, and even moderately important things, can go on and on.

As both a presenter and one who’s experienced his share of workshops, I’ve tried to determine what makes one a ‘ten’ on my rating chart.

For example, was everything perfect? No, not necessarily. If you look hard enough you can always find something to complain about.

After considerable research and review, I reached some important conclusions.

No matter what the environment – wonderful, adequate or uncomfortable — I learned the most and had the most positive learning experiences when all of these were present:

* The speaker had a great love for the subject matter. * No matter how serious the topic, the speakers never took themselves too seriously. * The audience members were part of the process, not just observers. Even if everyone did not participate, everyone felt they would be welcomed to participate. * And last but not least, the process included some fun.

When all of these criteria were met, little annoyances didn’t matter. What I learned in those experiences meant more to me. I remembered them more, and they were more likely to be of practical use.

Too often, those of us who teach on spiritual topics get caught up in the “seriousness” of our own work.

We’re too eager to get the point across or to help people receive information that will move them along their chosen, spiritual path.

Instead, we need to create a positive memory and a desire to embrace the information. Otherwise, no matter how good our information is, part (or all) of what we teach is wasted.

If you ever feel that you wasted your time or money at a class or workshop, do your presenter a favor. See which of the above criteria were not met. Then let the presenter know. Maybe he or she has something important and worthwhile to communicate, but doesn’t know how to deliver it.

If you present workshops and seminars, how do they stack up against this list? Are there ways in which you could better and more effectively communicate your information? When all else is said and done, did everyone have fun… including you?

If you have fun, they have fun, and your presentation improves. What more could you ask?